How to Deal With Discouragement

Talent Myth

• Example: “I don’t have any musical talent.”
  Source: Media, story-telling and movie hype.
  Solution: Learn the truth about practice and be confident in your knowledge that practice time is the only useful indicator of skill level. Don’t waste your time worrying about anything outside of your control, and get back to practicing.

Child Prodigy Myth

• Example: “I started too late; I’ll never be really good.”
  Source: Hype
  Solution: Stop comparing yourself to freaks of nature. Read biographies of your favorite musicians; some of them may have started later than you did, and most probably weren’t “child prodigies”. Meet some skilled local musicians; you might be surprised how late some of them started. Most average people can, in time, develop a level of guitar proficiency worthy of pride and respect.

Discouraging Comments

• Example: “My friends say I don’t sound good.”
  Source: Comparing ourselves to world-class players.
  Solution: Comparing ourselves to the top players in the world is like comparing our dinner to a meal in a 3-star Michelin restaurant. Music is one of the few skills where the experts can come in to our living room and show us what they sound like. We live in a world with a huge number of humans, and some of them are very talented, lucky, or rich enough to spend all of their time doing what they want. Then there’s the rest of us.
  
  Remember that all people have vulnerabilities. The world’s greatest rock guitar player might feel like a fraud if he can’t read music. And the world’s best classical player might see a popular musician half his age surrounded by fans and go green with envy. That’s life.

Negative Self-Talk

• Example: “I suck.”
  Common source: Discouraging experiences.
  Solution: Reach outside of your comfort zone, but don’t put yourself into a situation where you might crash and burn. Seek supportive environments. Stay away from friends who don’t support you. Find the fun in music.

Expectation Mismatch

• Example: “I can’t play x chord or y song.”
  Source: Expectations are too high.
  Solution: Adjust your expectations realistically, and make sure your practice time is enough to meet your goal.
  
  A year from now (or two, or three) that same challenge that once seemed impossible might seem easy.

Memorization problem

• Memorization problem: “I always forget what I learn.”
  Source: Poor memorization skills
  Solution: Change your Approach to Memorizing Music on Guitar. Pledge to make memorization a bigger priority. And make sure that you practice a bit every day, no matter what happens.
  
  While this is frustrating, you actually are not really forgetting what you’ve learned; you’re just having trouble remembering it sometimes. There is a difference.

Plateau Problem

• Plateau Problem: “I don’t feel like I’m getting any better.”
  Source: Period where progress seems slow
  Solution: Practice more, or dramatically shift your practice routine. Keep practicing every day until the feeling goes away. (And then keep practicing every day after that, too.)

Comparing Yourself To Others

• Example: “I’ll never be as good as...”
  Source: Confusion about goals and specializations.
  Solution: Clarify your goals, admit that you’ll never be the best at everything, and accept that comparing yourself to the world’s elite is a fool’s game. Most professional players can think of somebody who completely blows them away. Master-level players orbit outwards, and are often just as far from each other as they are from the Earth below.